How to Recognize and Escape Lifelong Abusers



About the Book Teaching you to recognize and recover from everyday sociopaths

Millions of people — approximately 12 percent of the population — spend their lives engaged in the exploitation and emotional manipulation of others. Lovefraud’s mission is to help you, and everyone, spot these everyday sociopaths — they’re not all serial killers — and get them out of your life.

The definition of sociopath on Lovefraud

The definition of a sociopath on Lovefraud is someone who has a personality disorder in which he or she routinely exploits, manipulates and abuses others. Clinically, these people could be diagnosed with antisocial, narcissistic, borderline or histrionic personality disorder, or psychopathy.

Sociopathy is no longer an official clinical diagnosis. Mental health professionals typically use the word as a synonym for antisocial personality disorder. But the original meaning of sociopathy was, “anything deviated or pathological in social relations.”

So that’s the definition of sociopath on Lovefraud — it’s an umbrella term for people who are maladjusted in their relations with others and society, and motivated towards antisocial behavior. 

In fact, Lovefraud calls them everyday sociopaths, because you may encounter them in your everyday life.

We need to be able to talk about everyday sociopaths, so we can learn to protect ourselves from them.

What you need to know about everyday sociopaths is dedicated to teaching you five important lessons about everyday sociopaths:

  1. Millions of sociopaths live around us. They are in all communities and every demographic group.
  2. Sociopaths live their lives by manipulating and exploiting the rest of us. If you tangle with them, you will be damaged.
  3. Sociopaths have serious personality disorders — antisocial, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic and psychopathic — for which there are no real cures.
  4. Sociopaths tend to look and act like the rest of us, at least when you first meet them. They are not delusional, and they may not be convicted criminals.
  5. Sociopaths are easy to spot, once you know what to look for. When you know that they exist and learn the warning signs, you can protect yourself from them.

About the Author

Donna Andersen is author of, a website that teaches people to recognize and recover from sociopaths. She is also the program administrator for Lovefraud Continuing Education, which offers online courses to help people spot, escape and recover from narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths and other manipulators.

Donna is author of three books: “Red Flags of Love Fraud—10 signs you’re dating a sociopath,” the “Red Flags of Love Fraud Workbook,” and “Love Fraud—How marriage to a sociopath fulfilled my spiritual plan.”

Donna has collected more than 5,000 cases of people targeted by sociopaths. She has presented research on sociopaths to the Society for the Scientific Study of Psychopathy. She is the program administrator for Lovefraud CE, which offers continuing education about personality disorders for survivors and mental health professionals.

Donna has appeared on television shows including ABC News 20/20, Who the Bleep Did I Marry?, My Life is a Lifetime Movie, Handsome Devils, Urban Legends and The Ricki Lake Show. She has been interviewed for radio shows, print articles and web posts.

Many Lovefraud readers thank Donna for saving their lives.

Top Reviews for Senior Sociopath

I received this book, via a link provided by Amazon, as the kindle version. It was very convenient. I spent the day, off and on, reading the book. It was captivating to realize how SERIOUSLY disordered and dangerous sociopaths are. I was one of the survey respondents after surviving sociopaths. However, it was still very much worth the read to put my experience in the larger context of what these evil persons do (with joy) to harm others. It was validating to read some of my life story in Donna’s book which I hope will help my family to heal and to, also, warn others. The work that Donna Anderson, is doing, to alert the public is very much needed in our troubled world today. Her work exposes how sociopaths destroy everything they touch.

— Pamela B, MSW, LICSW

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— Barbara Morris

I read this book as a preview – I was one of the many who suffered at the hands of an older narcissist and have been a reader and contributor to “LoveFraud” ever since. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is struggling with the misconceptions that “things will get better” as the abuser ages. I can testify that abusers hone their craft and only get better at what they do – lying, manipulating, gaslighting, belittling, verbal, emotional and physical abuse of all kinds. They have been doing these things for over 50 years – they are very adept. Donna does an amazing job of describing these abusers using the words of the people who have been victimized and of those who have found a way out. She covers many topics and bases all her conclusions on surveys and statistical data. Whether one is married to, dating, a child of, a step parent to, a friend of, or working with a disordered person she covers it with examples and explanations and great advice. I strongly recommend you read this book, and share it with anyone involved with a disordered person.

In fact, anyone over 50 (and even those younger!) will find it a fascinating and informative read. Thank you Donna – this is a MUCH needed book!

— K. Bernhardt

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